please dont use women's public bathrooms, as a woman it makes me very uncomfortable to have someone with a dick using a place where im very vulnerable and if i saw you in a public bathroom id 100% be able to tell that you're not a woman.
Do you have x-ray visions that you look to peep into stalls and check the genitalia of strangers or do you just confront every non-cis looking person, ugly person and/or masculine looking person and accuse them of having a penis and therefore not being women?
Are you fine with trans *men* using the *women’s* restroom because some of them don’t have penis?
What about the trans women who don’t have penis? They can have a go?
Also you’re wrong I am 100% a woman. Policing me for certain traits as not counting as womanly will blow-back on cis women, like that cis lesbian who was not allowed to use the woman’s restroom.
sorry if I seem stupid but what did the natural hair post (that the natural hair movement os a way of celebrating not having nappy hair) suggest? I tried to read it over but didn't really get it?
Its not a stupid question at all, I think it’s important to note that the quote stated that’s what the movement has “become” and is not what the entire movement has always been about. From my perspective, I think the movement has been heavily commercialized and is more about glorifying softer textured hair and pushing unnecessary products on women.
A lot of the popular bloggers/vloggers video content focus on the hundreds of different ways you can manipulate your hair texture and curl pattern, while pushing hair products that claim to make your hair more ”manageable.” All those kinds of trigger words, “manageable,” “soft” “conditioned” are all little micro aggressions against “nappy” It’s completely counter productive to what the movement is supposed to be about.
There’s an obvious preference for women with softer textures, they’ve become the forefront of the movement. Our black hair is very diverse, no two textures are alike and ironically there’s an extreme lack of representation within the natural hair movement and these ladies are all — unintentionally —- selling a misconception that if you follow their regimen or use the products they do then you too can get huge soft 3a hair like them! Which is of course fucking ridiculous. It doesn’t matter how much Shea Moisture products you use or how often you do twists outs, your 4c will always be a 4c.
and with any movement that gains mainstream attention, almost every major hair brand/company has jumped on the “natural hair” bandwagon and are now developing “organic” products marketed specifically to the black woman. Which sounds like progress right? But — not even getting into whether or not their products are legitimately “natural” or “organic” — most of the marketing material, from commercials to print ads to even the packaging are all the fucking same. It’s the same racially ambiguous, light caramel skin toned, 3a-3c’d textured hair women and again this lack of proper representation is perpetuated.
Which, to me, is so fucking depressing because here we have a movement made for us by us and its initial mission and intent was to celebrate the various ways we are black and nappy, and the women who are still holding these values true are being drowned out and instead we have this overexposed, slightly whitewashed “natural hair movement” thrown back in our face. Like this isn’t progress and it’s important that we recognize that. Even if we are a fan of the movement, even if the movement has done some amazing things for our personal lives, it’s important that we allow ourselves to step back and critically analyze even the things that mean a lot to us, because we got to be able to call a spade a spade in order to make room for real growth as a people.
I also want to note that this is just my critical observation and it doesn’t represent what the entire movement is about, they’re plenty of amazing women pioneering natural hair and are serving as amazing role models to thousands of women all around the world, This is just me looking at the movement critically with the hope for improvement.
Since its all over my dashboard every single day , what is reverse racism?
From what I understand ( being Nigerian and dealing with parents that don’t like white people, because of obvious imperialism ) black people or poc can’t technically be racist. I think ( my opinion this can be wrong) they…
“Part of life is a quest to find that one essential person who will understand our story. But we choose wrongly so often. Over the ensuing years that person we thought understood us best ends up regarding us with pity, indifference, or active dislike.”—Jonathan Carroll (via mindoftristan)
“When people of colour are expected to educate white people as to their humanity, when women are expected to educate men, lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world, the oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions.”—Audre Lorde (via stories-yet-to-be-written)
so fucking wounded.
The only person
that can pick you up,
push back your shoulders,
wipe the tears,
mend the broken bones
and get you out of your slump
Now go and live,
there is so much to be
happy about.”—"Things I tell myself when I feel as though the world is too big for me" - e.m.f.p (via enlan)
“I feel like the preoccupation with transition and with surgery objectifies trans people, and then we don’t really get the lived experiences and reality of trans people’s lives. So often we’re the targets of violence. We experience discrimination disproportionately to the rest of the community. Our unemployment rate is twice the national average — if you’re a person of color, it’s four times the national average. The homicide rate in the LGBT community is highest among trans women and when we focus on transition, we don’t actually get to talk about those things.”—Laverne Cox in response to Katie Couric’s predictable, poisonous bullshit (via sheercalculatedsilliness)
Some white people can’t STAND that there’s a word that black folks are allowed to say that they can’t. They feel discriminated against like they’re at the back of the bus. They are angry.
Four hundred years in this country is white people telling black people what they can’t do. ‘You can’t go off the plantation. You can’t keep your religion. You can’t be free. You can’t vote.’ But in 400 years, black folks have asked white people not to do ONE thing: Don’t say that word.
“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.”—Osho (via lazyyogi)
“That both Mitt Romney and Phil Robertson have and love black grandbabies should remind us that racism is not primarily about individual attitudes. White folks can love individual black people and still build a world that is inhospitable to black folks. In fact, individual and exceptional black achievers are necessary to maintain the lie of racial progress. Their presence has very little to do with systemic change, though.”—Brittney Cooper, White Supremacy Wins Again: Melissa Harris Perry and the Racial False Equivalence (via checkprivilege)