“When people of colour are expected to educate white people as to their humanity, when women are expected to educate men, lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world, the oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions.”—Audre Lorde (via stories-yet-to-be-written)
so fucking wounded.
The only person
that can pick you up,
push back your shoulders,
wipe the tears,
mend the broken bones
and get you out of your slump
Now go and live,
there is so much to be
happy about.”—"Things I tell myself when I feel as though the world is too big for me" - e.m.f.p (via enlan)
“I feel like the preoccupation with transition and with surgery objectifies trans people, and then we don’t really get the lived experiences and reality of trans people’s lives. So often we’re the targets of violence. We experience discrimination disproportionately to the rest of the community. Our unemployment rate is twice the national average — if you’re a person of color, it’s four times the national average. The homicide rate in the LGBT community is highest among trans women and when we focus on transition, we don’t actually get to talk about those things.”—Laverne Cox in response to Katie Couric’s predictable, poisonous bullshit (via sheercalculatedsilliness)
Some white people can’t STAND that there’s a word that black folks are allowed to say that they can’t. They feel discriminated against like they’re at the back of the bus. They are angry.
Four hundred years in this country is white people telling black people what they can’t do. ‘You can’t go off the plantation. You can’t keep your religion. You can’t be free. You can’t vote.’ But in 400 years, black folks have asked white people not to do ONE thing: Don’t say that word.
“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.”—Osho (via lazyyogi)
“That both Mitt Romney and Phil Robertson have and love black grandbabies should remind us that racism is not primarily about individual attitudes. White folks can love individual black people and still build a world that is inhospitable to black folks. In fact, individual and exceptional black achievers are necessary to maintain the lie of racial progress. Their presence has very little to do with systemic change, though.”—Brittney Cooper, White Supremacy Wins Again: Melissa Harris Perry and the Racial False Equivalence (via checkprivilege)
“I feel like the preoccupation with transition and with surgery objectifies trans people, and then we don’t really get the lived experiences and reality of trans people’s lives. So often we’re the targets of violence. We experience discrimination disproportionately to the rest of the community. Our unemployment rate is twice the national average — if you’re a person of color, it’s four times the national average. The homicide rate in the LGBT community is highest among trans women and when we focus on transition, we don’t actually get to talk about those things.”—Laverne Cox in response to Katie Couric’s predictable, poisonous bullshit (via conradtao)
“When someone tells you that your fly is down; when someone calls you out on your privilege, they are doing you a kindness. No one wants the embarrassment of walking around all day with their fly open. No one should want the embarrassment of wandering through life alienating their friends and colleagues through unexamined privilege. Calling this stuff out is hard. It is emotionally draining and it is a constant uphill battle for those of less privilege. A simple thank you is the very least you can do.”—On being an ally and being called out on your privilege (via slacktivist)
What the "actual fuck" is the point of treating all men and speaking of all men as though any of us is the same as the worst of us. Many men including myself identify as feminists and do the best we are able. (Though we make mistakes). You perpetuate hate and disguise it as progressivism.
If a child is nipped by a dog no one blames them for fearing other dogs.
If a woman is abused, raped, assaulted, beaten, humiliated, degraded by a man everyone blames her for being wary as if she has the innate ability to know which other men will abuse her, no different than a child not possibly knowing which dogs are mean.
Do not talk to me about feminism - a movement started by my sisters for women. Talk to your brothers who abuse, rape, assault, beat, humiliate, degrade and oppress us. That is the best you are able to do. Call out your brothers for their sexism and misogyny no matter how small. Any male “feminist” that attacks a woman for her feminism is nothing but a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Feminism is not about you. Feminism is not about looking after men’s feelings when men are the number one threat to a woman’s life.
I will never, ever preface my feminism with “some men”. It’s not “some men” that abuse, rape, assault, beat, humiliate, degrade and oppress women. It’s “some men” that don’t.
“It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering.”—― Judith Herman (via psych-quotes)
“I asked all of the gay male students in the room to raise their hand if in the past week they touched a woman’s body without her consent. After a moment of hesitation, all of the hands of the gay men in the room went up. I then asked the same gay men to raise their hand if in the past week they offered a woman unsolicited advice about how to “improve” her body or her fashion. Once again, after a moment of hesitation, all of the hands in the room went up.
These questions came after a brief exploration of gay men’s relationship to American fashion and women’s bodies. That dialogue included recognizing that gay men in the United States are often hailed as the experts of women’s fashion and by proxy women’s bodies. In addition to this there is a dominant logic that suggests that because gay men have no conscious desire to be sexually intimate with women, our uninvited touching and groping (physical assault) is benign.”—Gay Men’s Sexism and Women’s Bodies by Yolo Akili (via plightofthepretty)
“If animals are indeed enough like us to provide models that many scientist consider necessary, then we should recognize that animals are, in fact, like us, and deserve not to suffer as we would under such circumstances. Yet, in my conversations with vivisectors or supporters of vivisection, I’ve often been told that humans and animals are significantly different in that they perceive pain differently, and have different physiological reactions. If this is the case, then —if animals are indeed so different— then we must wonder how suitable animal use is for understanding human physiology and psychology. In a way then, the animal experimenter is caught in a logical trap: if animals are enough like us to justify using them as experimental models, then we must consider that they suffer, or to be mere cognitive machines as Descartes reasoned, then we must question whether or not animals provide a good enough model.”—Making a killing - Bob Torres (via apologetikerfeind)
“How do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?”—bell hooks (via lolanbuhainsevilla)